In our previous channel we spoke to you about the problems of the Indigo adolescent and teen-ager, and how to cope with their existential crisis. We spoke of how the Indigo being comes to the planet to break through entrenched systems, and how, as they do this, they often provide a “mirror” for the family and the community of where dysfunction lies. In this channel we will talk further of the nature of the Existential Crisis, in the hope that this will provide further information and assistance to those of you who are parenting Indigos who have reached this stage in their lives.
A problem that is frequently encountered by parents of Indigos is that their intelligent and often gifted child suddenly loses interest in school. This loss of interest may be mild, leading to withdrawal and apathy. Or it may be intense, leading to the teen-ager dropping out of High School at the age of fifteen or sixteen, before he or she has had time to make decisions about future careers and directions. This is often traumatic for the parents, who cannot understand why a child would seem to be so uninterested in education and career opportunities, especially since the parents themselves have often had to work very hard for the same educational and career opportunities that their children seem to be throwing away.
The teen-ager may then proceed to sit at home for a while, or for a long time, with no seeming ambitions or direction in life. He or she plays music, sees friends, goes out, but does nothing “constructive” and makes no effort towards earning a living or finding a career. They just seem to drift. This can be very upsetting for parents, especially parents who are career focused and success dominated. And we have noticed, dear ones, how it is often just these kinds of parents who attract Indigos who will drop out of school and seem quite uninterested in the success path that their parents have followed with such determination.
The reasons that the Indigo follows this path are often quite simple. As Indigos they are highly intelligent and capable. They learn very fast, and have sharp and exploratory minds. School, as it is experienced now, simply bores them. It is too slow and it seems to have no purpose. To the sharp perception of the Indigo, school is just a place where they are forced to conform and to learn things that have no relevance and purpose in their lives as they see it. Indigos have already decided that they do not want to sit in offices and do boring and repetitive work, and so they see no need to be “trained” for that career path.
They are often very clear on this, and nothing will make them change their minds. If they are not allowed to follow their inclinations and quit school, they can become rebellious and angry and destructive, engaging in self-destructive behavior patterns that threaten themselves and their families. Or they may just sit around the house and seem to have no purpose or plan in life.
Please understand, dear parents, that your child is not doing this to drive you crazy. Nor are you a terrible parent who has failed in some way. What the Indigo teen-ager is crying out to all that can hear is that there is no place for them in society as it is constituted now. They do not want to join the “rat race” and become consumers of information and products. They want to live their lives as they know they should, being present in the moment and experiencing what life offers. They do want to express themselves and their talents; it is the reason for which they incarnated. But often they become so blocked with anger and misery that they become depressed and cannot find their way forward. They do not know where to turn. When they look at the traditional education and career paths they see nothing for them. And yet they cannot find alternatives. They seem paralyzed and lost. And indeed this is how many of these bright souls feel after fifteen years on the planet in the educational and economic systems in which they find themselves. And so they become depressed and anxious and seek ways of “escaping” this reality that holds nothing for them, often in alcohol and drugs.
This pattern is often most evident in the Male Indigo Teen-ager. The reason for this is that in recent years women have become increasingly empowered and spiritual, but men have not kept up in general. So, as a result, many young males are brought up in homes where there is not a strong and positive male role model. The father may be absent, either because he is always working and is not there for his children, or the parents may be divorced and the mother is the sole effective parent. Either way this does not provide a strong role model for the adolescent male at a time when he is forming his adult male behavior patterns. All that is shown to him as the standard adult macho male of western media culture, and for many Indigos this is not how they want to express their maleness. And so they are lost, feeling rebellious and having no real model on which to pattern positive behavior patterns.
But, dearest ones, we have good news for you, for the Earth is changing rapidly, and many of these changes are beneficial for your Indigo children. The Male energy on the planet is undergoing deep change this year. Men are learning to become more connected to the Earth and to see themselves as stewards and keepers of the Earth. This is what the Indigo male seeks, it is what he came here for. Men will become increasingly more caring and more involved with their communities. They will rediscover their spiritual essence, and many will become powerful teachers and role models for younger men in their communities.
As parents, dealing with the Indigo adolescent and Teen-ager in crisis, it is perhaps wise to understand that you need to be able to offer your child alternatives in education and career or work opportunities. The Indigo is here to serve and to bring change. If they become self-absorbed and isolated they will be miserable and depressed.
The best advice we can offer, dearest parents, is to involve your children in the community. Find things for them to do while they are still young that will allow them to express their powerful soul urges to service and sharing, and they will probably find their own way forward. Do not pressurize them to excel at school or college. Understand that this is not their path. Allow them to find themselves and express themselves. Allow them to be creative. Understand that every soul wishes to be independent and creative, and so does your Indigo, no matter how problematic he or she may be at this time. You can help them to re-connect with that deep inner desire to express their soul in creativity and love if you understand what they are saying to you when they refuse to accept your career options or your way of life.
In fact, if you celebrate their difference and encourage their interests, they will probably surprise you at how they blossom and open up into wonderful adventures of creativity. They are meant to be different, they are not meant to be like you. You can learn so much from them about being in the present moment, about expressing who you are and your creative passions. But this can only happen if you allow them to be who they are and to express their creative passions. If you accept them for what they are, they will accept you, and then you can begin to negotiate a way into the future together, where both of you are happy and at ease with each other.
Remember, dearest ones, that this Indigo being wants to be happy and productive and independent. He or she is just struggling to find a way to do this is a world that was not designed for them. The Indigos are helping to redesign a world that will indeed support each and every being in their quest for happiness and self-expression. You, as parents, can help with this project if you empower and enable your Indigo teen-ager to find this path for themselves. It can be done. Ask for help from the angelic realms, and know that as a family you will be guided into paths that will help you all to move past this crisis and into a place of peace and sharing with your Indigo son or daughter.
