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Seeing
Indigo
by Scott Alexander King
 Few
would argue that today's children are different. It is safe to say they
are more aware, outspoken and defiant - completely different
to what we were like when we were kids. The kids we see today appear rebellious,
angry and resentful...but when their behaviour or attitude is questioned,
the kids themselves are not really sure why they feel or behave as they do.
They just do. And this is the problem.
Today's kids
are frustrated with something larger than their conscious mind can put into
words. It is right there, on the tip of their tongue, but they cannot find the
words; there is nothing for them to compare their emotions with and nothing
to weigh them against. They just are. And with every probing question and trip
to the psychologist our kids are getting angrier and more frustrated. They don't
know what the problem is - no one does, but they know what it is not.
They know it isn't them. They initially take the challenging
questions, suggestions and the disapproving looks in their stride, until one
day they snap. Their shadow side, often fed by years of confused emotion and
suppressed feelings of inadequacy (feelings reinforced by those who are supposed
to inspire and guide them - i.e., teachers, doctors and, sadly, sometimes
even parents) eventually bursts out and runs rampant. With a sigh of relief
we then label them 'A.D.D.' (Attention Deficit Disorder) or 'A.D.H.D.'
(Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder) and drug them out to make them 'normal'.
"At least we now have something to blame!"
The point I am trying to make is that there is nothing to blame. Honest. There
is nothing 'wrong' with our kids. Sure, there will always
be the occasional kid who is different in a negative way. There have always
been individuals who stand out as being a little out of the nine dots, but these
cases were (and still are) rare. Today's kids are different.
But their difference is special. There is nothing wrong with today's
kids. In fact, today's kids are very much 'okay'. They are
here for a reason and, if we are completely honest with ourselves, we would
admit that it is actually us who are experiencing the resentment and
the anger. We are the ones creating the communication blocks, the disruption
and the defiance we see in our children.
We spend so much
time trying to put our kids into boxes that we so desperately wanted to escape
from when we were young, that we have forgotten to ask ourselves why. We try
so hard to find labels for our kids and reasons for their behaviour that we
have forgotten to look at ourselves. We become angry with our children for speaking
up, having opinions and for pointing out the inadequacies in our society because
we see it as criticism of our ability to parent well, and in turn disloyal to
the effort witnessed in our parents. We see it as a slap in the face, a sign
that we have not loved deeply enough or participated effectively enough in their
lives. We see it as a spotlight that insinuates our role as defective or lacking
in some way. We become defensive because society says that children should be
seen and not heard and we superficially believe them. What we fail to feel is
pride and excitement. We fail to feel these emotions because we are afraid;
afraid to remember our own desire to make a difference, bring about change and
to scream from the bottom of our very soul "What about me?" A plea
that echoes back over countless generations, I promise.
Our communities
are like volcanoes about to erupt, threatening to burst apart unless we take
responsibility and start listening to and communicating with our kids instead
of talking at them and telling them how they should be acting. I am
sure the riots in Sydney have not gone unnoticed by most Australians and I am
also confident that many watching these outbursts on television are asking why?
Why are our kids acting like this? The answer? Frustration ... mixed with
relief. The kids involved have taken the first excuse as the final straw and
have run with it. They have aimed their frustration at the most prominent representation
of authority (the police) and have vented their anger and resentment on them
with force and passion. The kids involved have probably long ago lost sight
of the trigger, the single incident that ignited this wildfire of emotion: the
accident that killed their friends, and are now reacting purely on adrenalin
and the misguided sense of power afforded them by the realization that they
are finally being heard. What parents need to be made aware of is that many
of today's children, although sitting silently watching the outbursts
on television, are subconsciously right there beside their peers, cheering them
on.
Today's children
are special. They are sacred and they are the balancing force we have been calling
to for years. And now that they are here, we don't know how to handle
them. Today's children are the Indigo Children, Spiritual Warriors destined
to initiate great change for our planet so long as we create the forum for them
to do their work. Indigo Children hate being lied to. They know immediately
when someone is not telling the truth, and it angers them beyond description.
Today's children cannot abide hypocrisy, arrogance or ignorance, but,
unlike most of us, they are inherently forgiving, accepting and loving. Sure,
they fire up quickly, speak their mind and sometimes act out violently, but
they only do so in response to our being unforgiving, judgemental or selfish.
Today's
kids are like walking highlighter pens
The kids we see today are like walking highlighter pens, indicating society's
weak spots, shortfalls and areas that need our attention, but as with all healing,
they are aware that nothing global can take place until we clean up our own
back yard and so they target their elders and immediate 'superiors'
- their teachers, principals, parents and other figures of authority.
If the truth be told, today's children are not suffering from A.D.D. or
A.D.H.D. - we are. We are the ones not paying attention. We are
the ones bucking the (new) system. We are the ones resisting change.
We are the ones denying our very evolution. The angry children we see
today are the result of our struggle to comply with the greater scheme of things
and their desire to see us wake up.
I heard many people
say, disapprovingly, that the kids caught up in savage riots in both Sydney
and Perth earlier this year were probably "high on drugs", most
likely bought with money stolen from their parents or paid for with stolen goods.
The truth is many of these kids were "high on drugs", but
not the sort bought in seedy back streets or nightclubs. No, many of the kids
probably had the residual influence of drugs given to them by their parents,
doctors and teachers running through their veins; drugs prescribed in response
to the diagnosis of A.D.D and A.D.H.D. Ask yourself this question: Would you
give your child a line of Cocaine each morning before sending him or her off
to school? No, seriously, would you? Well, Ritalin, the drug most commonly used
to 'treat' A.D.D. and A.D.H.D. is a powerful, mind-altering drug
that effectively anaesthetises our children, rendering them unable to productively
interact with their peers and their environment by numbing them to emotion,
imaginative thought and natural creativity. Otherwise known as methylphenidate,
Ritalin is a stimulant with properties similar to other amphetamine drugs. Ritalin
is a CNS (Central Nervous System) stimulant that affords its users a 'high'
similar to that of a slow-release Cocaine hit. Ritalin, or 'vitamin R'
or 'R-Ball' (as it is known on the streets) is recognised as a possible
stepping stone to harder drugs: drugs such as Marijuana, Cocaine and Heroine
and is listed among the 'Top 10' controlled substances most likely to be stolen
from doctors surgeries and pharmacies (according to the U.S. DEA.) What
are we thinking of, then, allowing this to continue? Why are trying to silence
our children? What does this say about us?
All Indigo Children
innately know they were born with a mission. They know they have a Purpose.
The Indigo Children are here to bring integrity back to humanity. Indigos know
it is up to them to bring legitimacy back to our governments, balance back to
our relationships and equality back to our communities. They are here to instruct
us in the ways of truth and honesty. They are here to coach us in clear communication,
impeccability and unconditional love. Today's children say things as they
are. They do not mince words or tell you what they think you want to hear. They
cut to the chase and call a spade a spade. They do so to get to the core of
the issue. They do not believe in us beating around the bush, compromising or
selling ourselves short. Their purpose is to help us realise that we have been
living a lie for eons, with each generation erroneously verifying the false
beliefs and values of those previous, thus effectively creating an unbroken
cycle of ineptitude, and they are frustrated by our inability to see it. They
are even more frustrated by our determination to deny possibility, thus preventing
them from realising their Purpose. The more we resist them and their mission
the more they will taunt us and flaunt our obvious lack of accountability like
dirty laundry, hanging it out for all to see.
So, how do we reverse
the conditioning we have all fallen prey to? How do we say 'no'
to the desire to believe in the diagnosis of A.D.D. or A.D.H.D. - letters
that, in twisted way, seem to spell 'rescuer' to our exhausted,
stressed ears? Well, try talking to your kids. Try asking them to share
their dreams, their fears and their view of the world and share yours with them.
Take time off work so that you might spend some time with your kids. Set aside
your weekends for them. Ask them for their suggestions and act upon them by
integrating them into your daily routine. Make your kids a productive part of
your life instead of expecting them to comply with pointless rules and empty
promises that you wouldn't (and don't, I bet) comply with yourself.
Do not say one thing and then promptly do the opposite and don't expect
your kids to fall for the obsolete "do as I say and not as
I do" rule of thumb. And how do I know this to be true ... because
I am an Indigo myself and I am confident enough to say that if you have read
this article, and it has resonated well with you, then you are probably one
yourself or you have one living in your home right now. If that is the case,
though, I want it made perfectly clear that by identifying you or yours as an
Indigo does not afford you the excuse to act up or to allow yours to intentionally
make the lives of those around them miserable. With the title of Indigo comes
responsibility ... to the self and one's Purpose. You must see yourself
as the next sacred step in the evolution of humanity, a role that affords you
a position of authority and wisdom to be espoused in a gentle way that invites
others to follow suit, and with this realisation comes a humbling relief that
is sure to bring you to tears. Am I right?
© 2005, Scott Alexander King
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Scott
Alexander King is a teacher, animal
spirit intuitive and author of Animal Dreaming, a shamanic 'field
guide' that offers insight into the wisdom of over 200 indigenous and introduced
Australian animals. Scott is available for interviews, workshops and seminars.
He and his family are based in the beautiful Yarra Valley, Victoria, Australia,
as is his shop, Circle of Stones. To learn more about Scott, his work with
animals and kids or his book, Animal Dreaming, visit www.animaldreaming.com.
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