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Emotional First Aid for
Anxious Indigos and Crystals
by Jan Yordy, MEd., MSW
Indigo and Crystal children and teens are highly aware, emotionally sensitive
energy beings. They come into our world in an amazing assortment of different
types and varieties but one characteristic which is similar is they are right
brained dominant processors who feel their feelings intensely.
Over the last several years in my work as a child therapist I have noticed
an increase in the number of special children coming to my therapy practice
with significant and, at times, overwhelming fears and anxieties. Some I have
seen have separation anxieties, sleep challenges, school-related phobias, performance
anxieties, night terrors/nightmares, social awkwardness/shyness, panic attacks,
or obsessive compulsive behaviors. Whatever the child’s or teen’s
presenting issues, it is important to explore the root causes of their problems
as well as develop effective strategies for eliminating the troublesome thoughts
and behavioral patterns.
Part of what creates problems for Indigos and Crystals is their very large
energy field which creates heightened intuition or psychic abilities. They may
be seeing frightening energetic beings from other dimensions or picking up psychic
information which they don’t know how to understand or deal with. Due
to their large energy fields they may also be absorbing negative emotional energy
from people around them, which can sometimes make attending school or riding
on crowed school buses even more difficult and draining for them. Many times
these highly sensitive children will come home from school so energetically
charged that they will need to discharge the toxic energy before they can feel
calm and present in their own skin. Wanting to fill up on junk food after school
and having a huge temper outburst may be an indication that your child is either
trying to numb out to their uncomfortable feelings or ineffectively discharge
the confusing, negative energy.
Since these children are vibrating at a higher energy frequency, spending
a lot of time in front of any kind of machine that is resonating with its own
energetic frequency can also compromise the balance of energy within your child’s
body. In addition to picking up the EMF’s (electro magnetic frequencies)
your child’s values and belief system are also influenced by the toxic
diet of violence and mayhem on television and within some computer games. Many
times I have had to clear out trauma memories from children who have been watching
excessively violent movies which are creating vivid fears and nightmares. Supervising
and limiting your child’s television- and video-viewing and time with
computer games and Game Boys™ may help to cut down on their anxieties
and fears. It also helps prevent children from numbing out to their anxious
feelings by mindless TV and computer preoccupations.
Food and chemical sensitivities
Another factor that appears to contribute to children’s anxious or fearful
behaviors is hidden food or chemical sensitivities. As a young child my son
became very irritable and anxious after ingesting peanuts or red food coloring.
My daughter had a different reaction to some foods such as dairy and chocolate,
which affected her behavior by making her very uncooperative and prone to temper
outbursts. In my therapy practice I have seen children whose anxious behaviors
completely disappeared after changing their diet and eliminating the problem
foods or chemicals from their environment. Many children’s food and/or
chemical sensitivities are never discovered, leaving many parents to struggle
with confusing behavioral or health-related issues for their highly sensitive
children.
Indigos and Crystals who experience trauma can also become overloaded with
intense feelings and memories, which may become stuck on the right side of the
brain. When something traumatic happens to anyone the memories are stored on
the right side of the brain as a chunk of information which still needs to be
processed and restored, rather than as bits of information which are collected
when we think of something more positive. If the child is not able to process
and work through the traumatic experience with their whole brain, it remains
stuck on the right side of the brain waiting to be re-triggered and experienced
over and over again. Without an experience which helps the left brain to process
the traumatic event rationally and to place it securely within the past, the
child can feel overwhelmed by flashbacks and intense feelings which they are
not able to release.
Many children will try to suppress trauma memories instead of processing them
because they are so frightened of them. They erroneously believe that if they
don’t think or talk about the event their bad feelings will go away. Unfortunately,
their childish minds often take on irrational beliefs, which can cause further
problems and anxieties, which in turn lead to more negative coping strategies.
If your child has experienced something traumatic and has had a significant
change in their personality or behavioral patterns which have lasted more than
six weeks, it may be wise to seek out a child therapist who is trained to use
techniques such as EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing), or
one of my Energy Psychology Techniques or Play Therapy.
As parents of the new generation of sensitive energy beings we need to function
as detectives searching for root causes of their energy disturbances. No longer
can we ignore our children’s subtle energy imbalances or expect that traditional
medicine can fix their problems by swallowing a pill. Parents also need to be
mindful of their own emotional states which can be mirrored back to them through
their children’s behaviors.
Emotional First Aid for Anxious
Indigos and Crystals
Tip 1 - Hook Up
If your child is upset,
check your own energy! When you are energetically scrambled or stressed, they
will be too. Take some time to calm or relax yourself and notice how this affects
their energy. Hint: Do a Hook Up whenever you find yourself getting stressed
or upset at your child. You will find your child will calm down much quicker
and you will feel better too!
- Cross your feet
at your ankles.
- Hold your arms
straight out in front of you with back of hands facing each other, thumbs
down
- Cross one hand
over the other, place palms together and clasp fingers.
- Bend elbows and
fold hands in and up until they are resting comfortably on your chest.
- take a big breath
in while placing the tip of the tongue against the top of the palate behind
the front teeth.
- When you exhale,
relax the tongue in the mouth.
- Hold this position
until you notice a calming sensation inside. (It can take a minute or two.)
- Relax and uncross
hands and feet.
- Touch the fingertips
of one hand against the fingertips of the other and notice the energy where
they meet. Hold for at least 30 seconds. (The energy may feel hot, tingly
or like it is vibrating, humming or throbbing.)
- When your child
asks you what you are doing, tell him/her that it is a way to calm down. Ask
them if they would like to join you!
Tip 2 - Taming the
Dinosaur
This
technique usually will help a child relax and calm down when they are upset,
scared or about to have a temper meltdown.
- Rub your hands together quickly to collect energy
in your hands.
- Take both of your hands and place close to your child’s
head near each of his ears. Without touching the child’s body, sweep
around his ears and down the side of his head, neck, shoulders and arms and
off his hands. Your hands are working like a magnet to pull down and release
over–energy from your child’s body.
- This motion probably needs to be repeated three to
five times until the child visibly calms down.
- Some gentle words that recognize his upset and let
him know that it is okay to have what ever feelings he has, may be helpful
for the child.
Parents can also do this to themselves to help relax and calm their own over-energy!
- Simply take one hand at a time, cross over to the
opposite side of your head and sweep down your neck, arms and off of the fingers.
Remember to take some slow deep breaths as you release your over-energy.
Tip 3 - Sedating Triple Warmer
Sedating Triple Warmer is another powerful way of calming down a child’s
over-energy. If this procedure is done once or twice a day for three to four
weeks you literally can reset a child’s nervous system into a calmer mode.
- While the child is calm and sitting or lying
down in a relaxed position, hold the front of her knee and the back of her
elbow on the same side of the body. You may feel the energy tingling as it
moves down the leg to the ground. Is your child able to feel the energy moving
too?
- When the first side feels like it is finished
(it could be five minutes or more), switch to the opposite elbow and knee
and repeat the same procedure.
- Next, move so you can hold the child’s
little indentation on the outside of their baby toe with one of your index
fingers. Using your other index finger hold the spot where the child’s
fourth and fifth fingers join the hand (right where the V is located). You
can hold these points about the same amount of time as the elbow and knee
points. This is repeated on both sides until all four points are finished.
- Hint: This is a relaxing activity to do as
your child is going to sleep. It really can help them fall asleep faster and
reprogram their nervous system at the same time.
Tip 4 - Karate Chop with Affirmation
Have the child use the karate chop with an affirmation to help shift her out
of a negative or uncooperative state. Energetically this is known as being psychologically
reversed. When anyone’s energy is reversed we literally will do the opposite
of what would help us or we make choices which sabotage our best interest.
- If the child will cooperate, have them tap
the outside part of the hand against the outstretched palm of the opposite
hand in a (gentle) karate chop motion. While tapping, have the child say some
version of the following:
“Even though I am feeling upset
right now, I am a super kid!”
“I like myself and I’m okay, even
though I have this ___________
problem.” (Anger, sadness, fear, upset, etc.)
“Even though I am feeling like a bad kid right now, I love and
totally accept myself!”
- Repeat the tapping and affirmation out loud
three times, pausing to take a deep breath in between each affirmation and
tapping sequence.
- If the child has trouble saying the affirmation
and doing the tapping, do it for them on your own body. Set your intentions
for their highest good.
Tip 5 - Safe Place with a Butterfly Hug
Have your child think of a place where he feels calm, peaceful and relaxed.
This safe place can be real or an imaginary place. (Check to make sure there
are no negative memories associated with it.) When you first talk about the
safe place, it helps if the child is relaxed and in a positive state of mind.
- Have your child describe a peaceful, calm
place in as much detail as possible. (Sometimes I have the child draw their
safe place.)
- Is this calm, peaceful place inside a building
or outside in nature?
- While they are picturing this special place,
taking some slow deep breaths and feeling the calm, relaxed feelings inside
their body, have them cross their arms over their chest and lightly tap their
finger tips on their upper chest until they feel totally calm and relaxed.
This gentle tapping process is called a Butterfly Hug.
- Whenever they are feeling agitated or upset,
remind them of their special peaceful place. Have them picture the safe place
in their heads and then do a Butterfly Hug to feel better! Some children like
to draw their Safe Place.
Tip 6 - Holding Positive Points
Another way to help your child relax and let go of tension or uncomfortable
thoughts or feelings is to hold their positive points on their forehead. The
reason it works so well is because it is a neurovascular point which improves
circulation and helps to bring the blood flow back into the thinking part of
the brain. If you want to make it even more powerful, you can have the child
do a hook up while you are holding these points.
- Rub your hands together briskly and then shake
them off to gather the energy into the hands.
- Place your fingertips lightly on your child’s
positive points above their eyebrows. The positive points are located directly
above each eyebrow and below the hair line. (You can also use the whole hand
on the forehead with another hand placed at the back of the head just above
where the skull meets the neck. This covers the fear points at the back of
the head and sets up an energy resonance between the two hands.)
- I usually ask the child to think about whatever
is upsetting them or making them feel stressed. This usually takes about a
minute or more.
- Remember, having the child do a hook up while
holding these points makes this an even more powerful exercise.
- If the child will not cooperate to do this
procedure, then set an intention to do it for your child while completing
it on yourself.
Tip 7 - Heart Lock In
Locking in the positive energy of the heart is another way to clear negative
energy from the body’s nervous system and increase positive loving energy.
- Tell your child that you are going to teach
them how to make the loving positive feelings of their heart bigger. Explain
that a “Heart Lock In” is like opening a door inside their heart
to allow more sunshine and love in.
- Have the child close their eyes and focus
on their heart center while they think about something that makes them feel
happy or loved. Have them place their hand on their chest when they feel those
loving feelings there.
- Now have them imagine that they have a key
and can open up their heart to let in more light and love. Can they visualize
or create an image of their breath going slowly in and out through the door
in their heart?
- When their loving heart energy has increased,
have them think of someone they would like to send some positive loving energy
to. When they are ready, they can send out a bubble of loving energy to the
person they are thinking of. Can they feel the doorway of their heart open
even wider as they send out positive loving energy? What color was the bubble
of loving energy they sent out? Is there anyone else they would like to send
loving energy to?
- Playing happy, positive music while the child
is sending out loving energy adds a nice touch. Suggest that the child may
want to continue to send out loving happy energy to different people or places.
It is also fun to send loving energy back and forth between the two of you
throughout the day!
- After they are finished, talk to them about
what they noticed happening while they did this “Heart Lock In”
activity. Usually there will be an increase in their positive, loving feelings.
Tip Eight - Water
Whenever your child needs an energetic shift, water can provide a nice soothing
effect. Whether it is a swimming pool, lake, a sink full of soapy water, a relaxing
bubble bath or a sprinkler on a hot afternoon, it will provide a release of
the negative energy from their body. To further enhance the release of negative
energy add ¼ to ½ cup of Epsom salt to their bath water. It cleanses
their aura and helps with the energetic shift. A few drops of lavender oil also
add a nice scent to the bath and calms the central nervous system.
Making sure your child has enough water to drink
is another way to help your child stay emotionally balanced. (Pop, soda, juice
and milk cannot replace the body’s need for water!) Water is a great stress-buster
and helps the brain work more efficiently.
Tip Nine - Aromatherapy and Back Flower
Remedies
Aromatherapy or Bach Flower Remedies are another way to reprogram the body’s
electrical system. One Bach Flower remedy which helps a child/adult calm down
is called Rescue Remedy. (This homeopathic remedy can be found at your local
health food store or from a naturopath.) Simply placing four drops on the tongue
or in a small glass of water or juice can help ease the child into a more calm
and relaxed state (without side effects).
Rescue Remedy is made from the essence of six
English wildflowers: Impatience, Star of Bethlehem, Cherry Plum, Rock Rose,
Clematis and Crab Apple. These six essences are blended into a solution of grape
alcohol which quickly disperses the healing energy to the body.
Tip 10 - Guardian Angels and Fairies
Children are endowed with wonderful and creative imaginations. When children
are upset or agitated, it may be helpful for them to image what their personal
guardian angel looks like. Is it male or female? Is it large and powerful or
small, agile and quick? Does it have a name and distinct personality? Is it
someone they know who has already died When they have had a chance to visualize
their guardian angel, have them draw a picture of it or find something which
can represent it. I like to anchor the child’s sense of safety and protection
by having the child do a Butterfly Hug while they picture their guardian angel
watching over and protecting them. Parents may want to tell their child that
they can call on their guardian angel whenever they need help or to feel safe.
Some parents may want to teach their child to pray for their angel to help them
whenever they need him/her.
- Discuss with your child the concept of a guardian
angel who looks after them and protects them.
- Encourage your child to visualize what their
angel may look like. Is it male or female? Is it powerful and strong or small
and quick? Does it have a name and distinct personality? Is it someone they
know who has already died?
- Have the child draw a picture of what they
think their guardian angel looks like and then install the image more deeply
by using the Butterfly Hug while they look at their picture or imagine their
angel.
- Have the child think about a problem situation
and then do the Butterfly Hug. How does their angel help them with the situation?
- If the child has other situations where they
would like to feel the presence of their angel, just have them picture it
in their head and process with another Butterfly Hug. Angels can be especially
comforting as your child is trying to get to sleep!
- Let your child know that they can call on
their angel whenever they need to feel safer or work out a problem.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Jan Yordy, MEd., MSW, Certified Play Therapist,
is a former teacher and a child therapist working primarily with Indigo children
and teens. Creator of the Energy Connection game and a video/DVD about
the Indigo phenomenon called Indigo Child, The Next Step in Evolution,
Jan is passionate about helping Indigo children lead positive and fulfilling
lives.
Jan is in great demand presenting a variety of workshops locally as well as
internationally. She has trained as a Spiritual Facilitator with Dr. Wayne Dosick,
author of Spiritually Healing the Indigo Child (and Adult Too), and
is happy to be using his techniques at her new Integrated Center for Optimal
Learning in Waterloo, Ontario. To learn more about Jan and her innovative resources
you can visit www.energyconnectiontherapies.com.
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