Intuitive
Parents - Intuitive Kids
Be Genuine
by
Jennifer Crews, M.A.
If
I had on videotape what Carlos, a 4-year-old boy taught me in just two hours,
a big secret to working with the new children would be unveiled and seen by
everyone. Unfortunately, I did not have a video camera and the moments instead
are captured in the digital constructs of my memory. Therefore, I am here writing
about the experience to share with you what I witnessed and how it pertains
to being a valuable tool in understanding the vibration of genuineness that
the new children are teaching us today.
Carlos has several diagnoses that the medical and educational worlds have graciously
attached to his name. Carlos’ medical file indicates he has Tourette’s
syndrome, ADHD, and Autism Spectrum Disorder. I met Carlos through a home visit
in his small 2-room townhouse in a low-income community of Denver, Colorado.
I was there as a speech language pathologist to perform a routine evaluation.
The evaluation consisted of a series of tests to create another label for Carlos
to add to his list of accomplishments. As the assessor I was to show him a book
filled with a wide variety of pictures and have him name each one. This was
a diagnostic tool to listen to his pronunciation of words and determine which
speech sounds were difficult for him to pronounce. I had two hours to establish
a rapport with him and collect all this data to complete my formal evaluation
report.
Carlos has dark hair and immense dark brown eyes with a body that was in constant
motion. I spent the beginning of our time together on the floor playing trains
with him. He loves cars and trains. Though I sat primarily in one location leaning
against a pleather ripped couch, Carlos bounced all over the room with the occasional
visit to my lap. He rarely looked me directly in the eyes but instead used his
peripheral vision to connect with me. I had a brilliant idea or at least I thought
at the time to pretend the test booklet of pictures was a regular book and act
as if I was reading the book to him. Ah, what a great technique to encourage
him to tell me the name of the pictures as I pretended to read the book. I pulled
the large 8X10 colorful book out of my bag to initiate my plan. Carlos saw the
book and immediately bolted under the kitchen table. I did not even say anything
or reference what I was doing yet, but he knew. His essence knew.
I explained to him that it was my new book that I wanted to share. His energy
quickly intensified and he started to dart all over the room. Completely avoiding
me he scurried from corner to corner of the small house wildly screeching various
high-pitched sounds. I ignored what he was doing and continued to verbalize
that I would love to show him the book and that I thought he would really like
it. To calm him I attempted another approach and encouraged him to read the
book to his toy stuffed animals. As his screeching increased it was clear this
was another mistaken technique to persuade him to comply with my agenda.
Carlos’ agitation steadily grew as he launched into throwing his trains
across the room. Though not throwing directly at me, he threw hard and furious
and continued screeching. The look on his face was distress. Based on his facial
expression alone you would think I was showing him a shot with an exceptionally
long needle. Though this was not at all what I was doing – his body language
indicated he was experiencing this same type of pain. Carlos was now under the
kitchen table eating old French fries that were many days old. His orb like
eyes were now pouring with tears. I crawled under the table and sat next to
him. We both paused. Sitting in silence his eyes met mine and I watched as his
eyes blinked slowly and purposefully coated in tears.
Initially with my muscles tensed crouched under this kitchen table my body
started to relax. Ahhhhh – I heard him. It was in that very moment I got
it. I heard him telepathically communicate with me. “You're lying –
be truthful with what it is you are doing and why you are here.” Tears
filled my eyes. I swallowed hard and began to speak as I heard the purity of
my words “I’m sorry Carlos.” “My book is actually a
test. I am here to listen to your speech sounds so I can help you with sounds
that are hard for you to say. It helps me when you name each picture in the
book so I can get a good understanding of how you say certain sounds.”
The next moment was a life lesson I will never forget. Carlos put his hand on
my shoulder and gracefully stood up and out from under the table. He pushed
his face into mine touching my forehead with his and looked me candidly in the
eye. He then turned away and floated across the room. He grabbed the book off
the floor and jumped up onto the couch. He sat perched against the pillows with
the book in his lap and rapidly flipped through each page while announcing the
name of each picture with a powerful resonance. He did this with no cues –
with no prompts – with nothing but my explanation of exactly who I was
– what I was doing and why I was there.
I cried. I got up from off the floor and sat next to him on the couch. He went
through the entire book without me saying anything. He pronounced each word
loudly looking into my eyes after each word as if to check if I heard him. Once
complete he set it down on the couch and went back to playing with his trains.
Back to avoiding my eye contact, he continued to engage in his world as if nothing
ever happened. This would have been the most amazing educational video for parents,
for educators, and for any professional working with children. Carlos just wanted
the truth. He wanted me to drop all the distraction techniques and strategies
and be genuine and real with what I was doing. I made the mistake of thinking
that I needed a plan to manipulate and get what I needed from Carlos. He set
me straight.
The new children see directly through our agendas, our motives, and our own
selves. They can feel and resonate with the vibration of truth. They know what
is happening and what we are feeling way before we do. It is important as parents
to share with your child what is happening. If schedules change -share with
your child that the daily schedule is different and why. If you need to do something
that is not what your child is expecting – explain to them what is happening.
If you are experiencing an emotion explain this to your child. If you do not
want to share why you’re feeling the way you are just tell them “I
feel frustrated and that is why I am crying”
Carlos taught me the beauty in being genuine. That is all children want us
to be -genuine with ourselves and genuine with them. There is no room anymore
to be anything less. I continue to see this with teachers and therapists. If
a child detects that a teacher or therapist is being task or ulterior motive
driven they will act out or refuse to participate in the current activity. This
is a reflection to the educator to reevaluate their own inner genuineness with
what is being asked of the students.
In what originally appeared as noncompliance manifested in the physical form
of screeching loud sounds, running rampant around the room, and throwing objects
was actually an energetic message of refusal to engage in anything less than
genuine. Thank you Carlos for this valuable lesson. Next time your child communicates
through acting out ---- look at yourself. What is it about your current actions
or current way of being that is not in alignment with your truth? What aspect
of you is not being genuine? Your child will reflect back to you any lack of
sincerity happening within yourself and within your environment. I am grateful
to the children for mirroring this back to us to keep us real and to assist
us in embodying our genuine selves so we may be a stronger support system for
them.
©
Copyright 2008 Intuitive Teachings, LLC
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Jennifer
Crews, M.A.
is founder of the enterprise Intuitive Teachings, LLC offering individual, group,
and teleseminar teaching sessions on the following topics: Five Steps in Learning
the Art of Intuition, Understanding the New Children, Energy Management, and
Multidimensional Living. She is a Child Intuitive, Certified Spiritual Teacher,
Visionary Author and Educator dedicated to honoring the essence of children
and adults worldwide. Visit www.intuitiveteachings.com
to learn more about her services and products.
