For
years now we have heard terms like Indigo, Crystalline, Star Children and the
like. We have been advised regarding how to work with these children, what gifts
they are bringing and how to advance their skills. We have heard about the trials
and blessings of raising these conscious children. Lately, however, I have been
feeling the need to take a step back from all the information and get back to
basics, both with my clients and my own four children. And in the process, I
have been asking myself this question: “Regardless of who these children
are, where they come from or what their abilities are, how can everyone involved
learn and grow consciously from these relationships?”
A parent can gain all kinds of information from inner and outer sources regarding
the multidimensional aspects of their children and yet when it boils right down
to it, unless that information makes their daily interaction with that child
more conscious, then maybe it wasn’t really that helpful.
What if there was no one out there to give us any information about our children?
What if there were no labels to describe and no checklist of characteristics
to consider? This is all really a trial and error experience, anyway. Not unlike
the one our parents experienced as they tried to raise us. We may be more conscious
and more aware of various levels of functioning, but if we are simply judging
ourselves by new and more aware standards, then it seems we may be missing something
important.
What if all there was, was the interaction between the parent and the child?
Where would that take us? I still feel that our children are here to bring awareness
and healing to those whom they encounter, but those they encounter also offer
healing and awareness to our children. This is a two-way street. We are in relationship
with these children and, yes, they are gifted, yes, they are unique and, yes,
they are aware, but let us also remember that we are all gifted, unique and
aware to a greater degree than we once were.
The basic law of the universe, the law of attraction, dictates that like energy
attracts like energy. Even as the vibration of our planet is increasing, we
still by law call out for certain relationships to gain inner awareness. What
better way to grow in awareness of self than through the gift of a child? The
parent/child relationship is by far one of the most profound relationships we
experience in life. So maybe it is not the child that is Indigo, Crystalline,
Star or the like. Maybe it is the energy of the relationship that more accurately
holds those characteristics.
Perhaps, because the relationship is more conscious, more conscious awareness
is available to all involved. If everyone in the relationship is to feel empowered,
they first have to know that they are not separate in the process; one is not
more aware and the other less aware in all areas. One is not always the giver
and the other the taker. Relationships are always about giving and
receiving, ebbing and flowing, and allowing both. I cannot really buy
that these children come to us simply to help us grow. We are gifting them with
awareness as well. Our empowerment comes by staying in our awareness of self.
When this giving and taking is working, our relationships are smooth and there
is mutual appreciation. When these relationships are difficult and bring about
pain, there are some adjustments to be made. Discomfort appears simply as a
signal that an awareness adjustment is needed. The wonderful
thing about this discomfort is that as soon as the appropriate awareness has
been reached the problem ceases to exist.
Let me give you an example: About three and a half years ago, I was newly divorced
and had just moved from Maine to Arizona. I had my two youngest children living
with me and the two eldest lived with their father. Day in and day out for about
two weeks, the two living with me would fight and yell and come to me to resolve
the conflict. I was really getting agitated by the constant bickering and I
went into a bit of guilt about having divorced, thinking maybe they would be
better adjusted if I was still married. (That thought was more annoying however,
than listening to them bicker…so I decided to step back and listen to
them) One of the girls was basically saying, “oh poor me, you don’t
love me. Why won’t you play with me?” The other was saying, “I’m
not listening to anything you say and you can’t make me do anything I
don’t want to do. I don’t have to love you” As I listened,
it occurred to me that they were representing two parts of me that were arguing.
One child was reflecting my “poor me” side and the other was reflecting
the “no one can tell me what to do” side. When I could acknowledge
that they were reflecting me arguing with me, when that awareness was conscious,
they stopped. The very next day they were best friends again. Perfectly fine!
Since that time, I have loved using my relationships with others, especially
my children, as a way to bring self awareness. It kind of became a game, which
at the best of times helps me see the conflict as a gift and at the worst of
times has me calling for a sitter and a big space between them and me.
One of the major gains that I have noticed over the last several years is that
as our children become more conscious and as our relationships with our children
become more conscious, we are all gaining awareness without the need for so
much discomfort.
As parents become more authentic, children have the capacity to remain true
to themselves, and as the children remain more authentic, they raise the bar
again on the parent’s awareness of self. The cycle goes on and on until
the day comes when we have a highly conscious society, where all beings co-journey
in mutual respect and understanding of the growth potential available just by
enjoying each other’s company.
I never much liked the idea of being here on this earth to learn lessons, but
I do like the idea of being here to have the opportunity to gain more conscious
awareness of self. It is clear that we are now in this beautiful cycle of expanded
consciousness. As the children are more conscious, they more clearly reflect
the issues at hand and as the parents are more conscious, they more clearly
engage with the issues at hand.
Parents, please do not assume for even a moment that your
children are reflecting your “issues” only. This works both ways.
Remember, in relationships this is a two-way street. You can always tell whom
awareness has the potential to be gifted to, by whom is having the biggest reaction
to the exchange. In other words, whomever is reacting has the potential
to gain awareness in the exchange.
The ability to self -reflect comes in strong here. Most children have not been
taught this skill. Some come in knowing it and some need to be taught this by
a caring adult. Likewise, there are still many adults that never learned this
skill; therefore, they are sent children that may cause them to reflect.
No matter who is offering what to whom, you can be sure that the universe has
brought about a perfect match and the universe could care less about who is
gaining awareness and who is offering it in any given situation. The situation
is simply perfect for awareness to occur.
I still love my multidimensional sight and the ability to see things from many
vantage points. That is a gift that I bring to all my relationships and interactions.
I am still occasionally curious about where my children are from and what extraordinary
skills they possess. It seems that as the girls and I mastered some of the basic
levels of awareness we were able to see more subtle levels of awareness and
gain clarity there, thereby increasing our consciousness. It also seems that
my multidimensional sight may have been a gift needed or cultivated so that
I could see the various levels of potential in relationships. Maybe this was
all about seeing that at some level of awareness we are all working as ONE for
the benefit of ONE and there is nothing else but ONENESS. I can see that each
relationship has the potential to bring that awareness into clarity.
Just like everything else, there is a vast expression of parent/child relationships.
None of them are better or worse than the other, but all are exactly what holds
your personal potential for expanded consciousness. Our children are capable
now of reflecting the most subtle levels of our consciousness, because we were
conscious enough to give birth to such DIVINE reflections of self and the planet
as a whole was conscious enough to provide a playground for such a DIVINE exchange
of energy.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Suzy
Miller gifts
as a visionary and healer were unveiled in 1999 through an amazing encounter
with a young child diagnosed with autism. She is able to see various issues,
conditions and situations with great clarity from a multidimensional perspective
Susan’s own journey has given her many opportunities to see the interconnectedness
of all things as well as how these various dimensional frequencies play into
the unique dance of Oneness. She enjoys pushing the limits of what she has
believed to be possible and challenging others to do the same.
In addition to working
with individuals and groups, Susan has utilized her skills to bring awareness
to the brilliant gifts inherent in various “handicapping conditions”.
She also advocates for the advancement of children’s consciousness by
bringing clarity to their unseen energetic gifts. Suzy is tremendously grateful
for these gifts and enjoys sharing them across the United States, through
private sessions, group healings, workshops and consultations. Past workshop
titles include, The Energy of Autism, Advanced Energy Awareness, High Vibration
Children/Parenting Workshop, Power of Positive Communication/Educator’s
Workshop, and The Blessing of the Outer Landscape. Suzy also conducts group
healings for organizations. For further information, contact Suzy on 480-329-2706
or at Bluestarsuzy@aol.com. Please
also visit her website at www.bluestarbrilliance.com
