I have spent the last several weeks talking about and attempting to be fully present
in the various aspects of my daily life. Because so much of my life revolves
around children, I have had almost constant opportunities to practice this presence
with them. My first interesting observation was that it is so much easier
for me to be fully present with a child than with most adults, and of the adults
that I could easily be fully present with, I noticed that they, too, had a child
like quality to them. Children are naturally fully present. I am sure that is
why it feels so good to watch them play and enjoy themselves.
However, not everyone finds it easy to be fully present with the children in their care. The real truth is that many find it hard to be fully present…period. This is not a skill we are taught as children and it is not the experience that many children have, and yet it is the one thing that is needed. We do not have to be perfect as parents, teachers, daycare providers etc. We need only be present.
What I noticed in my own little experiment over the last few weeks is that when I was fully present with the children that I came across, they offered me insights and awareness that I had not experienced before. In the same moments we seemed to become more of who we each were individually while at the same time being so fully connected to each other that there was a feeling of functioning as a unit. We were in sync. There was sacredness to the space that I found myself in with them and a connection that seemed deeper than the “energetic” experiences I had had with children up to this point. The space of being fully present to whatever is occurring in the moment seemed to create a level of trust and mutual appreciation - a love.
I experimented with various children. I practiced being present with 30 teenagers during an energy awareness session. I practiced with the children in the Autism classroom that I consult to. I practiced with 120 children aged two to five years at the local YMCA’s. The same thing happened each time. There was a deep sense of connection, trust and allowing. It didn’t matter whether I was chasing a child down the hallway, singing and dancing with them, quietly reading them a story or offering them my awareness about the principals of energy and multidimensional reality. The result was the same: a deep connection that was filled with possibility, potential and transformation.
I began to wonder why we don’t teach this one simple skill to those that work with children. We can get so caught up in what has to be achieved in any given day that rarely are we fully present with anyone. We rush our children from here to there; we have a set of structured activities that we must complete within a certain period of time. We move from one moment to the next barely recognizing that the person with whom we are interacting is a beautiful child, full of insight, awareness and new perspectives. As we keep pace with the social norm, the educational requirements and the seemingly endless barrage of conflict in our lives, rarely do we stop long enough to just allow the sacredness of the moment. What are we missing? More importantly what are children missing by growing up in cultures that believe it is more important to do or have than to simply be?
Presence can be so easy to practice with children. It’s even easier to be aware of with a baby. I think it is worth practicing and even when you think you are fully present, practice some more. Create the space for potential without the need to figure out the answers, to be right or to know what is next. Create the space to allow your child to show you their full potential and to feel the connection of deep awareness. See the positive effect that your presence has on every child you interact with. See the benefit that it has on you.
What better model to provide for our children than to be fully present? What better precedent to set than to establish deep in their psyche that they deserve nothing less than to be received by the full presence of another?
Have fun practicing. Have fun watching the miracles that occur right before your eyes and most of all enjoy the full potential of that connection.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Suzy
Miller gifts
as a visionary and healer were unveiled in 1999 through an amazing encounter
with a young child diagnosed with autism. She is able to see various issues,
conditions and situations with great clarity from a multidimensional perspective
Susan’s own journey has given her many opportunities to see the interconnectedness
of all things as well as how these various dimensional frequencies play into
the unique dance of Oneness. She enjoys pushing the limits of what she has
believed to be possible and challenging others to do the same.
In addition to working
with individuals and groups, Susan has utilized her skills to bring awareness
to the brilliant gifts inherent in various “handicapping conditions”.
She also advocates for the advancement of children’s consciousness by
bringing clarity to their unseen energetic gifts. Suzy is tremendously grateful
for these gifts and enjoys sharing them across the United States, through
private sessions, group healings, workshops and consultations. Past workshop
titles include, The Energy of Autism, Advanced Energy Awareness, High Vibration
Children/Parenting Workshop, Power of Positive Communication/Educator’s
Workshop, and The Blessing of the Outer Landscape. Suzy also conducts group
healings for organizations. For further information, contact Suzy on 480-329-2706
or at Bluestarsuzy@aol.com. Please
also visit her website at www.bluestarbrilliance.com
